I need some advice?
Asked by Roseanna D
I am 19 and I am working at a place where i get minimum wage and its really only to pay for gas money to get to school. it costs me ten dollars a day to get back and forth so its forty dollars a week and i usually don't make more than 100 dollars with the hours i get. The reason I need advice is because I have a co-worker who is in her thirties and doesn't have a license for whatever reason. Everytime we work similar hours she pounces on me to get a ride and I don't know what to say because I don't want to create tension between us because we have to work together. I can't lie and say I am busy because we are scheduled together. She has gotten a ride off me 5 times now and not once has she offered to pay gas money. If anyone can think of something I could say to her in a way that doesn't make it awkward to work with her it would be very helpful. I don't want to be mean but with gas prices I can't afford to be a chauffeur.

Best Answer:
I think you said it very nicely in what you wrote. Just tell her she will have to give you gas money because of the price of gas. She will either understand and be nice or you will see her true colors and not want to give her a ride. No matter how hard it is you should always tell the truth.

2 options. 1) Let her know the if she expects you to give her a ride everyday, she will need to subsidise your gasoline by $XX amount (you decide); 2) Let her know that gasoline is expensive and you're saving for your studies thus you can't be offering her rides everyday.
Answered by SG Elite

Yes, I agree, there will be always these people here and there, she is testing you probably but idk, either way you will have to just say it, heh... Don't worry, it used to send my mind into a spin when I first started to do that (telling ppl what I had to say) but it gets easier with time and the only thing is that until you start doing it they will only continue to take advantage of you, so you have to put your foot down (nicely but yes firmly) sometimes. Then when nicely doesn't get the message across, well then you have to be a little bit like the President of Iran lol.
Answered by netthiefx

Tell her she needs to help you out with gas money.
Answered by Yoho

I totally understand! At my last job my good friend wanted to carpool. She would have shared the expenses but I like that time alone. I have three kids and its my only time I have plus I like to drive. When she started asking me to carpool I told her I had a lot of errands to do after work. A lot of the time I really did but even if you dont, you can think of something you need to do. It sound like she is starting to depend on you for a ride so you better nip it in the bud.
Answered by mom of 3

You have to remember that you're going to work and back anyway and even if she wasnt with you you would have to fork out the gas anyway. With that thought in mind, how does she get to and from work when your not scheduled together? If she drives/gets a lift mention to her that it might be a good idea if you both took turns in driving into work as it would cut down the cost of gas for both of you! Play it like its actually a good idea!!! (even though she'll actually have to pay rather than scrounge rides). Theres nothing like the feeling of being taken advantage of, especially when you're bearing the cost! Good luck!
Answered by R&R

Hun your just gonna have to be honest and let her know. There are ways of doing that polietly. Infact you did pretty well with explaining it here. Just simply tell her that if she is going to need a ride then she will have to chip in for gas, because you cant afford to drive around on the money you guys make. I'm sure she will understand this because its obviously the reason why her normal ride isnt coming to pick her up. If she wants a ride when you guys work then she needs to supply the gas to, depending upon how far you take her is how you figure how much she owes. If shes just trying to use you then she wont ask for rides anymore, so then your problem is solved. There shouldnt be any tension because you arent responsible for her getting to work or from work. Just be honest hun and it will work out.
Answered by Raven

Just tell her you don't mind driving her home but you need to be reimbursed for the extra mileage.
Answered by stan c

To put it in a nice way, when you are giving her a ride home, stop at the gas station. If she doesn't offer you money for gas ,then ask her if she could "pitch" in XX-amount for gas.
Answered by Michael d

i would be honest and say i need to save my gas for school, i dont mind giving you a ride but throw me like 5/10 dollars a week or find another ride.
Answered by The Rock 08