How to deal with Jerks at work?
Asked by freinds F
I feel uncomfortable going back 2 work after my maternity leave, i work at a support services building for a school district (nurses, social workers, etc..) im a custodian. i got pregnatn beginning of last school year, and the babys dad dumped me. all year ive been listening to them tel me " what do u have to offer this child put it up for abortion" and then they kept saying "dont go on weflare i pay taxes" soo rude! all year. and thne this summer ive been 8 1/2 months along and had to call in becuase of contractions and stuff and they were making fun of me saying that "oh waht excuse will she make up to call in now?" they keep on making fun of me. my boss was hassling me about my weight restrcitions making me lift heavier stuff than my doctor note allow. im on maternity leave and really resentful and dont want to go back there after my maternity leave. how do i deal with them if i go back?

Best Answer:
My goodness these people are horrible! Having your co-workers talk about your personal life is a definate hostile environment that you should NOT return to! The fact that your boss wanted you to lift heavier than the doctor's note said should have been a big red flag--I would have complained to the principal or whoever is the head in your school district right away; if you plan on returning there, do it it now! You are with child and physically and emotionally draining; you do not need to be surrounded by such negativity and stress. You're going to be a mother now; you should be happy and they should be throwing you a baby shower or something--not laughing behind your back! My advice to you is start looking for another job. Ask family and friends to help you find one perhaps in other districts. Look online or in the local paper for a new job. If you want to continue working for this district to continue your current salary then request a transfer to another school (but in the same district) to the human resources department. They may or may not ask why you choose to transfer; if they do, tell them what they need to hear!...you can even tell them that you may sue for the pain and suffering you went through during your pregnancy because of the jerks at your job and how your boss requested you to do tasks outside of your physical capabilities at the time. In the meantime, pray, meditate, read inspirational poetry, listen to soothing music and look forward to having that wonderful bundle of joy! : ) People are always going to gossip and chat; the trick is to forget about them because you know you're better than them and you deserve better than the way they treated you...and in time you will get what you want out of life. It's a matter of inner peace, taking chances and letting time and nature take their course. Good Luck and God Bless!

Thats sexual harrassment, Contact your local police department or your bosses boss. You shouldent have to deal with that at all!
Answered by Shaun

Just ignore them. They are mean and are lacking attention. Making you feel badly will make them feel important. So, just ignore them because they are bad people and you, on the other hand are a nice person with good morals. In fact, I hope my daughter grows up to be like you because you have class and courage. What more could anyone want? I wish you luck my dear and I will pray for your strength and continued courage and good health.
Answered by dustyrustie

First off, your boss making you lift heavier things than your doc's note allowed is sooo the wrong thing to do.... and can get him into a crapload of trouble. Second, other people's opinions dont matter. You can listen and take them to heart or let it go in one ear and out the other. When they first started this, you should have told them that its your body, your decision and you dont really give a rats behind what they think. Sometimes with people like this, you have to make snide remarks, the kind that strike a nerve, to make them leave you alone. Kinda like....if they say you should get an abortion, say "Oh, when did you start living my life?" or just simply "Your not the one to make those decisions." Most times that is enough to make them stop. If nothing else, work there and deal with it until you can somehow find a better job somewhere else or maybe you can request to work in another building away from these people. You DO NOT have to put up with their crap and, depending on what is being said to your face and company policy, can constitute harrassment because they are making an infavorable environment for you. This could cost them their jobs. I dont know what else to tell you sweety, but you certainly deserve better than that. You may need to go to your boss and let him/her know what they are doing to you, if they continue once you are back to work. I hope this helps and good luck. Congrats on your baby and you deserve better than that jerk.
Answered by Kimmy3