I need help with a verbally abusive manager?
Asked by Chad B
I am a top detailer at a major auto sales store. I try my best and I do a good job. There is the manager in charge of the "back" (mechanics, detailers, paint ect) that is to the point of being verbally abusive to everyone. He calls people names like "f*g, a**hole, jerk, loosers and so on. You will detail a car and then he will try to not pay you for it saying, "you are only here for the money" He has thrown things at people, cursed, yelled and basically terrorized the back. Oh, and he will threaten to fire you on almost a daily basis even though he does not have the authority to do that and you do nothing wrong, I was threatened one time because i took the required break of 30 min's and wanted to eat lunch rather then work through it with no pay. I am sick of it. So me and another employee went to the general manager of the store and told him in confidence everything that was going on. I told him that it was to the point I wanted to transfer, that I didn't want anything happening to his job because he does have a family and I would feel guilty if he got fired especially in this economy BUT I personally could no longer take it anymore. The general manager promised to keep everything in confidence. But he told EVERYTHING to the tyrant. So now, I am having to deal with him spitting on me, yelling and again, threatening to fire me for telling. The other employee took the day off for a funeral, so he has no idea that he knows. I am angry that the general manager told. I expected him to have a talk, but why did he have to use names? I am now wanting to go to corporate but I don't want any more repurcussions then I have already experienced. I need this job desperately, no one is hiring in the area, trust me, I've looked. I don't know what to do, any advice?? I should mention that he actually sprayed chemicals in someones face and they pressed charges against him. He did this in front of the entire back, probably close to 20 people. The management knew and he still wasn't fired, he has had about 30 complaints about him through various people.....and nothing ever happens, it's like he is invincable. I've been there for 2 years and took it for that long, it's just too much to handle anymore. I can no longer take it. Tammy G - I agree with you, but i have 2 kids and a wife and one of my kids has a birth defect. At the end of the day, they come first. Soradmdra - you are a b****. I WAS in the Military. He threw a phone at my head today and threw it so hard I had to get 2 stictches. I am not being unreasonable here. YOU obviously are little kid who knows nothing of laws or the real world. I asked for help, not for you to be rude.

Best Answer:
Call the department of labor. Tell your manager or whoever is in charge that you are taking it to a higher level and if he doesnt do anything he will be the one getting in trouble

What your boss is doing is completely uncalled for. You should get a lawyer and sue him for harassment! What a jerk..no one deserves to be treated that way! If you can get a tape record and tape some of his threats/abusive comments. Its a rough economy right now but how much more can you take?
Answered by Tammy G

Oh I am so sorry to hear that you're going through this. The one thing that I am very pissed about is that your manager went and told that guy what you were complaining about. That is against the law because if it's supposed to be kept confidential and it's not...its a big no no. Another thing you can do is PRAY. Pray that this man calms down and stops being such a miserable old jerk. I will pray for you and your family. No one deserves to be treated that way. I know it must be tough for you because no one should go through that ESPECIALLY while you are at work. You are there to make a living and provide...not get annoyed and hassled by some bozo. I suggest you go to a higher person and tell them about that guy in the back and about your manager and what he did. This is a serious matter and you should speak to an attorney if this is not resolved in a professional way. Good luck and God bless.
Answered by Violet

Seriously? This guy sounds hilarious. Start making a joke of him rather than taking him so seriously - he sure sounds like a joke. I'm guessing you were never in the military. Obviously the dude isn't going to change. If you don't like it start lookign for new work. Sorry - no magical answer for you - he's an asshole - probably always will be - you already knew that - find new job - the end. If you really want to piss and moan about him to corproate - you can try to go ahead and do that. Just know they can fire you on the spot for no other reason than - he's a manager and you're not - and you're apparently a "drama queen". Oh you aren't? Well, that's what they are going to say you are - especially in your line of work. I'd say get over it or get out.
Answered by Soramdara

go over your managers head to his boss, file complaints against him, i'm sorry you have such an icky boss, good luck
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